Thursday, July 4, 2019

GET A LIFE




Do you have your life? Please think about this question, do you really have your life? I've heard statements like ‘get a life’ on many occasions said to people who appear to be different and unconventional especially in matters of socializing. Many also think the whole concept of life and living is about fun, leisure, and enjoyment. When an individual is having a great time, you hear remarks like he's enjoying life, when an individual is conservative and somewhat antisocial we conclude he doesn't have a life.

What is life? I believe life is a season or a duration when an individual is conscious, aware and involved in matters of this world. It is a period when an individual is expected to fulfill a purpose, serve a purpose, make something great happen, impact the world and influence things positively. I believe we all exist and are in this world to improve things and make better the condition of this earth. We are all here to make the world a better place; to create value, not destroy value, to make people happier, mankind better and humanity more purposeful. We are here to improve the world.

This, though being a collective purpose and objective for all mankind, as individuals our place, roles and assignments vary. That's why we are created and gifted differently. Our gifts and talents are indicators of our place, our projects and assignments in this world.
The ability to recognise your place, your gift, your sphere and your assignment makes you truly relevant in life. The ability to act on who you're created to be, what you're created for, perform your duties, achieve your aim and do your assignment well makes you successful in life. Having a life is knowing why you exist and doing that for which you exist effectively.

Thursday, June 13, 2019

Ways to Cultivate a Productive Work Environment

Technological progress has allowed a lot of people to work from almost anywhere. A huge advantage, it provides immense flexibility, where you want to work from home or from far-flung places as a ‘digital nomad’. However, it’s important to remember that work environments can have a major impact on a person’s productivity. Julia Roy, the founder of WorkHacks, wrote an article for Fast Company about where and how you should work to create a productive work environment. We had a look at her proposals.

Designate Work-Only Zones
Although modern technologies enable location-independence, it’s a good idea to connect places to their purpose. Our subconscious mind, as the author writes, functions exactly the same now as it did in the pre-laptop-and-smartphone-times and connects certain environmental triggers to behaviors. If you work, eat, and watch movies in bed, your brain will connect being in bed with all these things. This causes a serious problem in that it’s more difficult for your brain to focus on just one thing in an environment that it connects to multiple activities. For example, working in bed might suddenly affect your ability to sleep in it. A sleep specialist once said: only sleep and sex should be allowed in bed – nothing else is should get in.

So, it makes sense then to assign specific areas for certain activities. Your desk could be kept for administrative tasks. In turn, you could designate a different place for creative ideation – this could be the office sofa, the kitchen, or the meeting room. Ultimately, you need to analyze which places work best for completing certain tasks, and stick to that pattern. Keep underlining those mental associations: this is the place for writing, this is the place for coming up with ideas, this is the place for sleep.

Wednesday, April 17, 2019

How toTrain Your Brain to Be Optimistic





Optimism isn't always automatic. Sometimes you must create it for yourself.

Many people struggle to stay optimistic, especially in the workplace. After all, there are many reasons to be pessimistic: a difficult economy, global competition, a business ethos that seems to reward criminals and penalize truth-tellers.

Nevertheless, your ability to succeed depends heavily on your ability to remain optimistic. I'm not talking about seeing the world through rose-colored glasses. I'm talking about trusting your ability to cope, regardless of what life throws at you.

Pessimists don't just miss opportunities, they can't take advantage of opportunities that drop into their laps. They're so convinced that everything is awful that they can't figure out how to make things better.

Tuesday, April 2, 2019

The Life Mess Part 2



Can you recall the last time you faced a setback or an obstacle that really weighed you down?
Whether it was in your past, or you’re presently facing an obstacle, we all have to deal with them. Though, however unpleasant, these obstacles that come our way are necessary for growth. If we never had to face any adversities, blockers, setbacks or failures in life, our experiences would be cake! We’d have it so easy.

The downside? We would never be forced to adapt and mature.
So, in theory, having to face obstacles in life is actually desirable. The more obstacles you’ve faced, the greater the likelihood that you are quite mature and adaptable.
Though, not everyone tackles obstacles enthusiastically and head on. Some people go to great lengths to avoid them… or go into denial about their existence. And, others let obstacles overwhelm them, and they feel defeated.
Most think of obstacles as a negative; but, if you can maintain an opportunistic attitude when facing your obstacles or limitations, you’ll have an even more impressive result once you finally reach your goals!
Now, think about what obstacles are currently in your way.

What might you be faced with? Often, it’s time and/or money limitations.
To successfully overcome adversities and reach your goals, you have to embrace the obstacles that come your way.
You certainly don’t have to celebrate or welcome them with open arms, but rather accept and believe that these obstacles will push you to be stronger, help you grow and mature, and shape you to be more resilient.

Your attitude towards setbacks will define the outcome of whether you rise from the challenge, or remain stuck in it. 

Tuesday, March 26, 2019

BECOME BETTER VERSION OF YOURSELF



Look around you – how many people do you think are actually happy with the way their lives have shaped up? Chances are very few of them.
Most of us are filled with regrets and angst. We wish we did things differently. If we could go back in time and change our actions or reactions, we would. But the truth is, what’s gone is gone.
What you have is the present moment and the good news is that it is never too late to change. After all, we hold the reins of our life and have the power to change its course.
So, stop complaining and asking, “how do I change for the better?” because it is time to act. Here are  things to start doing today and become a better version of yourself:

1. Train Your Brain to Be Optimistic
Everything that life throws at us is not in our control. The only thing we can control are our thoughts, attitude and reactions. Would you rather be cynical about the world or adopt a positive mindset and live a more peaceful life instead?
Being optimistic is not as easy as it sounds. It requires practice and a lot of mental conditioning but it sure is a step forward towards a happier you.
So, stop feeding your brain with all the pointless, negative self-talk and replace them with these positive affirmations instead. Start a gratitude journal too, it’ll help.
In this imperfect world we live in, the least you can do is have hope and believe that the best will happen.

Monday, January 28, 2019

YOU WANT TO BE SUCCESSFUL, AVOID THESE 5 IMPOSTERS




There are such a significant number of methods for survival as an individual. Everybody has those high and low times in life, when you need to abandon everything. The main reason why you feel this way is because of the people you have around you, the people you choose to be friends with and the people you choose to have a say in your life. To make progress, you need to surrender a couple of terrible attributes. This article will give you knowledge on what to slice off in life to accomplish those objectives.

1. Negativity

Never say never. Never convince yourself that you cannot make it. If you believe that you will never make it in life, then maybe you would not. The words of the mouth are strong. Try it first and see for yourself before you jump into conclusion.


2. Bad friends
We all know it is difficult to live a life without friends, how lonely and sad our lives would be to live alone. But the truth is, to achieve success and be happy, bad friends are the first set of people you cut off. Not all friends want you happy. I am sure you have that one friend who always discourages you when you mention that big leap you want to take. Send that friend packing. You will be fine without them.

3. Procrastination

This is one major backlash to achieve success. When you procrastinate, it makes you lazy and before you know what’s happening, you might end up not doing what you wanted to do in the first place. Procrastination leads to laziness and we all know that nothing can be achieved if you are lazy. That is one of the worst traits to imbibe to achieve success. Always be on the move to achieve your goals.

Thursday, January 24, 2019

The Life Mess

Sunny Okonkwo
Don’t let yourself get caught up in the trap of comparison. You know what I’m talking about. Ignore the silly under 30 list that the internet throws at you before you’ve even had your morning cup of Tea.
So, know this. You’re going to continue to evolve in unforeseen ways. You are full of complexities and wonders that haven’t even begun to surface. Life’s unpredictability will draw these out, and what defines you now will be mere shades and hues of a more vibrant you over the next five, 10, 50 years. Honestly, I can’t even think of anything more liberating than that. Knowing that life will look differently than you think it will.

So think big. Show up early. Stay late, and bust your asses. But stay focused so that your change in growth is intentional. Don’t let who you’re becoming be shaped by disappointments. Also, don’t let yourself be shaped by achievements either.. If you could meet with triumph and disaster, but treat those two imposters just the same. Keep moving forward, and don’t be frustrated when your path gets messy because it will get messy. You’ll fall, and you’ll fail along the way, wildly.

Sunny Okonkwo

Thursday, September 13, 2018

Kick Your Fear of Failure to the Curb

 


Everyone can do it!
Do you have a fear of failure when it comes to quitting your job, growing your business, and achieving your dreams?
You’re not alone.
In fact, MOST people let this fear and its partner-in-crime, the fear of what people will think, control their ENTIRE lives.
In fact, the most common regret at the end of peoples’ lives, according to Bronnie Ware, a lifelong hospice nurse and author of the bestseller The Top Five Regrets of the Dying: A Life Transformed by the Dearly Departing?
“I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.”
Don’t let that be you! Today, you can choose to start moving past it. How do you conquer this super-common fear? It’s simple, but not necessarily easy: by TRYING THINGS.
Choose something small, like setting a timer and doing something that’s been scaring you for 5 minutes today, like:
  • Reaching out to a potential customer
  • Following up with one
  • Making a post on your personal page
  • Introducing (or re-introducing) yourself in your favorite FB group
  • Going on Facebook Live
  • Putting pen to paper to process through your biggest goal or fear right now
  • Figuring out how you can pay for that business investment you’ve been wanting to make but scared to let yourself have
  • Making a connection with someone you admire
  • Being honest with someone close to you about your entrepreneurial dreams
  • Deciding on a price for your offer
  • Posting your offer on your business page
Try that one thing for just 5 minutes, and experience the rush that comes from completing it.
Build that trust in yourself that you CAN accomplish things, and when the big stuff comes, you’ll be more sooooooo confident and ready to give them a go.
What will you do for 5 minutes today?
Or have you overcome this fear? How have you moved through it? Share below and let us cheer you on!

Tuesday, September 11, 2018

Battle Negative Thinking and Win





When life doesn’t go as planned or feels out of control, it’s tempting to fall into a downward spiral of negative thinking. Your mind goes into a tailspin of what-ifs and worst-case-scenarios. Fear and worry take over.

Constantly battling those self-defeating thoughts is both draining and stressful. And think of the ways that energy would be better spent — whether it’s accomplishing goals, setting new ones, or just enjoying life.

Even if you’re not dealing with a major challenge like a break-up, job loss, or a health problem, a negativity spiral has the power to paralyze. Whatever the cause, your happiness depends on being able to stop those critical or defeatist forces in their tracks.

Monday, September 3, 2018

Fear As A Source Of Motivation

Every human being houses some dreading events and occurrence in life. The ability to imagine such horror and mishaps lead to what is known as fear.  However, the thoughts this failure, horror, mishaps, embarrassment, disaster, fiasco and all sorts of disappointments; bring a new hope, optimism and motivation to do better and savage those thoughts of fear.  Fears give
birth to motivation as it also leads to success.

The question anyone would be interested in is how does fear motivate or stimulate one. You will find out as we proceed below.


GET A LIFE

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