Wednesday, March 21, 2018

Living Up To Your Potential

How many of you woke up today thinking that today would be different? That today would be the day you’d finally live to your potential and would transform your life. Or wait I’ll change the question, how many of you slept last night with that goal in mind? That today you’d wake up early and workout and drink that green hipster smoothie everybody’s crazy about, that you’d do yoga, be super productive and get all of your work done?

If you’re reading this particular post now, I can confidently bet that 99% of you did or at least have done some time in the past. Now, of course, it’d be unfair to standardize what goals you made and for what reason. But I’m confident that some time or another you have resolved to change your life for the better.

But now we’ll move to the more juicy part of this conversation.

For all of you who made goals:

How many of you actually followed through on the promises you made to yourself?

PUSH YOURSELF

I don’t know about you, but I’m not enjoying life if I don’t have something challenging that I’m working towards. When my goals push me to the limits, I know that I’m not selling myself short. Anything less than that, and it’s hard to be sure that I’m getting the most out of life, or at least trying to.
In other words, you get the biggest payoff when you go big, and are the most prone to failure when you play it safe. Flow state is the experience of being challenged in a way that pushes you to your limits without making you discouraged. According to studies, people aren’t happier because of having more money (at least so long as they’re above the poverty line). They’re happier because of the percentage of time they spend in Flow.

Wednesday, March 14, 2018

WHAT CAREER PATH MAKES YOU HAPPIER?



Every person wants a happy life (although some people work very hard to be miserable). A serious component of a happy life is a career that fulfills your dreams and goals—and yes, makes you happy, too. So, what are the happiest careers? The job that will make your heart sing as you go off to work every morning? Well, the surveys say...
No straightforward answer to that question exists. Why? Because people are different.
A career that would make you happiest would make another person miserable. For example, working as a primary school teacher. Spending your day with 2- 5-year-olds whom you help learn to read, teach them how to make friends, and hear all sorts of amusing things they say, is a dream job for someone—maybe you.
But to another person, that's a job of epic nightmare proportions. Twenty loud children with unreliable bathroom behaviors, temper tantrums and the inability to tie their own shoes? A horror-inducing experience, not the happiest career.
So, how can you find the happiest career for you—and avoid the unhappy careers that would fill every day with sorrow? Here are six ideas that will help you get started on the right path to your happiest career.
How Much Money Do You Need to Make for Happiness?
This seems like a silly question. The answer is usually that you need more than you're earning now.
This, however, is not actually true. An amount of money necessary to make you feel comfortable does exist and this depends on your cost of living and your expectations. (If you grew up with parents who earned six-figure incomes, you will have more difficulty finding happiness with a N500,000 household income than a person who grew up with parents who earned N200,000
You may think that you need to pick a career in which you will make a lot of money to have your happiest career, but you need to know that trade-offs exist for high salaried jobs. Yes, you can make a lot of money as a partner in a big law firm, but will that job make you happy? Would earning a modest salary running your own shop make you happier? No universal answer exists for that question, but you need to think about it to create the happiest career for you.

Where Do You Feel Like Yourself?
If nothing makes you happier than seeing options all lined up neatly in rows, you'll probably enjoy a career that involves order like accounting or chemistry. If you live for beauty, designing is probably a better choice. If you love talking with people, a job that requires you to work from home, typing furiously away on the computer with little outside contact, is not the happiest career for you.
Incidentally, a lot of different jobs within career lines that can meet different requirements for happiness are available for you to pursue. If you love science and medicine and you love people, maybe a general physician's job would be the happiest career for you.
If you love science and medicine but are an introvert who would rather not spend a lot of time with other humans, you can still become a doctor—but maybe one who specializes in research or a radiologist or pathologist who doesn't have to talk with actual patients all the time.

What Does Work-Life Balance Look Like to You?
Some people love to travel. They love new sights, new sounds, new smells. They love meeting different people and the adventure of getting around a new city, or a new country. This type of person would love a job that involved a lot of international travel. Another person wants to come home by 5 pm and can't get any rest sleeping in a hotel.
Some people want flexibility. They want to take time off to volunteer in their children's school classroom. They want to take tennis lessons during the day. Maybe they want to work from 6 am to 3 pm, instead of 9 am to 6 pm. Maybe a great work schedule to you looks like 11 pm to 7 am. There's nothing wrong about any one of those preferences, but if your preference is strong and not the 9 am to 6 pm expectation, you will have more difficulty finding a career that will make you happy.

Remember, Happiness Comes From Within
While you want a career that contributes to your happiness, if you expect your career to solve all of your other problems and bring you pure joy, you need to take a step back. The wrong career can make you miserable, but any tolerable job can lead to happiness if the rest of your life is in balance.
A great career won't fix a rotten marriage, but a good career can make it easier to focus on your marriage. A career that is perfect for your personality still won't bring you happiness if you've got other problems that you need to solve. Get out of debt, get counseling, and get away from toxic people. Fixing these matters will make every job happier.

You Don't Need a STEM Career to Have a Happiest Career
In recent years with the rise of technology, people are extolling the virtues of STEM careers—science, technology, economics, and math. These are, no doubt good jobs. Most pay quite well. Some have great hours and great flexibility. Others have terrible hours and terrible flexibility.
But, taking a STEM job isn't the key to finding the happiest career for you. People have different personalities. If you won't find happiness in one of those career areas, by all means, don't study for a job in a STEM career no matter how much they are touted as happiest careers.
Plenty of jobs exist in other areas that pay well and utilize the talents that you may have—talents you can utilize in a happier career for you. This doesn't mean that you shouldn't study anything in college or take any apprenticeship that comes your way. You do need to research what is available in careers that are of interest to you. If that's STEM-based, excellent. If not, that's also excellent.

How Do You Figure Out What Jobs and Careers Are Available?
Look around. Talk to people. When business networking is encouraged, this is what advisors are talking about—talk to people to identify your potential happiest career and to learn what jobs are available. Yes, you network to find specific jobs and help others find work, but you also use your network to find out what is available.
Career day at your high school or college just won't cut it. When you let people know what your talents and needs are, and ask them if they know anybody with similar talents, you'll find that doors open up. And then, you can talk with those people about what they do. Guaranteed there is a job out there that uses your talents.

If you want to just follow the instructions of your college career center, you can find a job, but it might lead to an unhappy career. If instead, you look at your options, decide upon what you value the most, and are willing to work on happiness from within, then, you may yet find your happiest career.

Sunday, March 4, 2018

Life Changing Questions You Should Ask Yourself Everyday

The reality of life is that we're all only here temporarily. It’s never too late to reinvent yourself & this list should help you get started. If life is temporary and is slipping away each day then…
1.   Why do we let unimportant things hold us back?
2.   Why do we let microscopic issues bring us down?
3.   Why don’t we pursue the things that really make us happy?
4.   Why don’t we chase success like we’ll die tomorrow?
5.   Why do we make excuses?
6.   Why do we put others down and create boundaries?
7.   Why don’t love generously?
8.   Why do we hate?
9.   Why do we judge others?
10.               Why don’t we cherish the precious moments with our families?
11.               Why do we run after things that don’t matter?
12.               Why do waste time living in the past?
13.               Why do we look at life through all of life’s great moments cameras?
14.               Why don’t we get out of our comfort zones?
15.               Why do we fear?
16.               Why do we hesitate in trying?
17.               Why don’t we jump in with both feet?
18.               Why do we betray those closest to us?
19.               Why don’t we expand our circle?
20.               Why do we get stuck in cliques?
21.               Why do we let peer-pressure run our lives?
22.               Why do we follow the sheep in front of us?
23.               Why don’t we become the shepherds?
24.               Why are we happy being mediocre?
25.               Why don’t we dream big?
26.               Why don’t we always aim for the stars?
27.               Why do we not try?

Thursday, March 1, 2018

Don’t Quit Your Job To Chase Your Passion… Until You’ve Read This


I’m quitting my job to chase my passion!”


When I hear someone say those words I experience two feelings simultaneously.
1. Excitement. You can’t help but admire someone with that kind of passion. Exciting things often happen when people step out of their comfort zone and make space to go for their dreams!
2. Fear. What if their dreams are not realistic? How will they pay their bills? What impact might that decision have upon their family?
I never know what to say (and doubt there is any right thing as each situation is so different) but as someone who has quit jobs to chase dreams I thought I’d jot down a few thoughts.
Warning: my thoughts don’t all mount a single argument to either quit your job or stay in it. They’re some things to ponder when you’re making the decision.

Chase Your Dreams
First and foremost – chase your dream.
So many people stop chasing dreams. They end up looking back on missed opportunities with a sense of regret.
If you have a dream that won’t go away I think you owe it to yourself – and the world around you – to pursue it.

Be Responsible
Don’t chase your dreams in a way that leaves a trail of ruin behind you.
You owe it to yourself to chase your dream – but not at the expense of those around you.
Too many times have I seen men and women chase dreams in ways that put their family in the way of harm. I can recount a number of new bloggers who quit their jobs to become full time bloggers only to find that their family no longer had an income stream or health care. I’ve seen marriages break down and tragedy strike as a result of chasing dreams without a safety net or backup plan.
I know ‘be responsible ‘doesn’t sound as sexy as ‘chase your dreams‘ – but it’s important..

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