Mind-Blowing Differences between Winners and Losers

In our society being a WINNER is what symbolizes success. Victory is the ultimate factor and we live and die by it. We don’t tolerate failure and it isn’t an option. If somebody fails in our society he or she is demeaned as unsuccessful.

But “don’t panic” I am only mentioning extremes. Most people fall somewhere in the grey area (more closer to the winning side) between Winning and Losing. The general public is generally successful at something’s but then lose at others. They are successful enough to be recognized but then don’t fail enough to be forgotten.


To give you a better idea of this scale, an example of a person who is failing at life could be a homeless person, who while having the resources around stays homeless. And an example of a winner could be somebody like Dangote who reached the apex of his business career and changed the country's perspective of entrepreneurship.


So if you’re fed up with losing or just simply want to win more, you have to put in the work. With a lot of dedication and a little bit of knowledge a person can easily change their life and become a winner. This knowledge is what I hope to share with you today.


After a lot of research, I was able to condense a huge resource down to this list of key differences between winners and losers. The purpose was that you could take this list one point at a time and try to implement short term goals rather than a large unmanageable long-term goal “To Become a Winner”.

Do not quit your day job and follow your dreams anyway

"Find a job that you love and never have to work a day in your life".  Confucius, It sounds great in principle. It rarely works in practice.

The problem is Confucius’ idea of one perfect job that will solve everything. This doesn’t exist. Any human being is multi-dimensional. It’s their unique combination of different passions that make them who they are, not one overriding interest. We’re not all obsessive artists tunnel-focused on one thing in life. We’re complex, nuanced people with different priorities, needs and aspects of ourselves to explore.

Even if it was once something you loved, your day job can become frustrating if it obscures everything else about you. What’s more, getting paid to do something you love inevitably changes your relationship to it. What you do will always be governed by what there’s a market for – what people pay you to do. This isn’t necessarily a bad thing, but if you’re relying on one job to deliver all of the fulfilment that you need in life then it might become one. It’s unfair on you – and it’s unfair on the business you work for.

This is why I groan inside whenever I read a blog, listen to a speaker or hear a conversation that boils down to why somebody should quit their day job and follow their dreams. That’s because the best way to explore what you can be as a person isn’t to go all-in, ditching one job for another in a desperate search for one that makes your dreams come true. It’s to explore the different aspects of yourself through the art of the side-hustle. Find a day job that you love, then find other things to work on that you love as well. It will make you much happier – and it’s likely to increase the value that you can bring to the business that pays your salary.

How the mid-life crisis hit fast-forward
As a marketer, you’re no doubt familiar with Abraham Maslow’s pyramid of needs. This is the idea that human beings have a hierarchy of needs that they are driven to fulfill, starting with those that are essential to staying alive, then moving up to more complex emotional and psychological matters.

For Confucius, happiness was about being able to eat, sleep, put a roof over your head and support a family as effortlessly as possible. However, that’s not the situation that most professionals find themselves in today. Once we’ve got greater security, we want a sense of love and belonging, then a sense of respect and self-esteem. Finally, we need self-actualisation: the sense that we’re actually being the people we have the potential to be; that we’re fulfilling the meaning in our lives.

And the evidence is rising that this is where professional life is falling short. 

We are living at a time when research shows more and more professionals experiencing ‘quarter-life crises’ about the lack of meaning in their working lives, while they are still in their mid-20s. People are starting to panic about feeling unfulfilled in their work when they’ve barely started working!

Success Doesn’t Happen Overnight

Success doesn’t happen overnight. It’s the product of years, and sometimes a lifetime, of habits that accumulate and drive a person toward his or her goals. Though “successful” can have multiple definitions, we can agree upon a generally accepted one—a person is successful when he or she leads others to success, meets his or her personal and professional goals, creates something useful and innovative, and makes a lot of money while making a lot of people happy at the same time. Most of us would be happy with any one of those elements of success.

To get to that level, you have to learn from the habits of the people who came before you. Take, for instance, there are common habits, which have come to define some of the most successful people in the world.

Invest in Yourselves

You can invest in a car, invest in a stock, or even invest in tonight’s entertainment. There’s only one investment that really matters, however, and it’s the one that’s going to stick with you for the rest of your life: It’s you. Investing in yourself is crucial if you want to be successful, and that means prioritizing your own development over the development of things outside yourself. For example, education is rarely a poor investment, either in time or in money.

Reading the news regularly and attending free online classes is often more than enough to develop your mind and perspective. No matter what you do or how you do it, it’s in your best interest to regularly and consistently enable yourself to grow, whether that means learning new information, acquiring new skills, or reshaping yourself as a person.

Do not be Held Back by Failure

The road to success is rarely straight. In fact, most successful people have only found success after enduring, and overcoming, the foul taste of failure in their own lives. Take, for example, Bill Gates, whose first business, Traf-o-Data was a complete and utter failure. Rather than give up and take a normal job somewhere else, Gates went on to create Microsoft, and we all know how that story ended. Failures come in all shapes and sizes, from embarrassing social mistakes to critical business collapses. Successful people make it a habit to prevent these failures from getting to them. Instead, they’re focused on continuing to move forward.

Think Long-Term

Successful people tend to make long-term decisions, rather than decisions that make sense in the moment; this is called delayed gratification, and it was the subject of my article titled “This Personality Trait Leads to Wealth And Happiness; Do You Have It?” They would rather have $100 a month from now than $50 right now, and they have no problem making a temporary sacrifice if it means improving something in the long-term. Take, for example, billionaire investor Warren Buffett, who frequently insists that patience is the key to everything. He doesn’t make impromptu decisions, nor does he jump ship the instant something looks like it might be going wrong. Instead, he takes his time making great decisions, and isn’t afraid to stick with them for the long haul. He’s a man who weathers the storm, every time.

Don’t be Afraid to Move Forward

Sometimes, the only difference between successful people and ordinary people is that successful people made a decision to move forward. Ordinary people are frequently crippled by fear, uncertainty, and hesitation, but successful people are able to move past that and move forward despite those feelings. Richard Branson, famed serial entrepreneur, always started things before he felt truly ready, and his gumption to make progress drove him to greater success.

Stay Focused

The focus is critical for success, but creating and maintaining focus is a hard habit to start. Distractions are everywhere in our lives, from the small scale (with emails, phones, and the lure of the internet) to the large scale (with competing offers, other projects, and “easier” routes). Staying true to your most important goals is important if you want to eventually achieve those goals. Each moment you spend doing something unrelated to those goals can be considered a moment wasted.

Stay Positive

It’s hard to be positive in the face of an overwhelming project, or after a crushing blow to your long-term plans, but successful people are able to do it. Rather than focusing on the negative, they focus on the positive. They turn challenges into opportunities. They express gratitude for what they do have instead of longing or grief for what they don’t. They use self-talk positively instead of negatively, and they look to the future instead of the past.

Understand the Meaning of Work-Life Balance

Hard work is imperative. Without a strong work ethic and a commitment to executing that work properly, it’s almost impossible to ever become successful. However, working hard doesn’t mean abandoning the important parts of your personal life. Rest, relaxation, and time spent with your family and friends are all critically important for your mental wellbeing. Taking time off of work every once in a while and preserving a healthy work-life balance is important, and is preserved even by the hardest-working, most successful people on the planet.