Things to Stop Doing to Yourself

 

Life is to short to waste time.Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.”  Nothing could be closer to the truth.  But before you can begin this process of transformation you have to stop doing the things that have been holding you back.

Here are some ideas to get you started:

1. Stop spending time with the wrong people. – Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you.  If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you.  You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot.  Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth.  And remember, it’s not the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true friends.
2. Stop running from your problems. – Face them head on.  No, it won’t be easy.  There is no person in the world capable of flawlessly handling every punch thrown at them.  We aren’t supposed to be able to instantly solve problems.  That’s not how we’re made.  In fact, we’re made to get upset, sad, hurt, stumble and fall.  Because that’s the whole purpose of living – to face problems, learn, adapt, and solve them over the course of time.  This is what ultimately molds us into the person we become.
3. Stop lying to yourself. – You can lie to anyone else in the world, but you can’t lie to yourself.  Our lives improve only when we take chances, and the first and most difficult chance we can take is to be honest with ourselves.  
4. Stop putting your own needs on the back burner. – The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too.  Yes, help others; but help yourself too.  If there was ever a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now.
5. Stop trying to be someone you’re not. – One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world that’s trying to make you like everyone else.  Someone will always be prettier, someone will always be smarter, someone will always be younger, but they will never be you.  Don’t change so

The Worst Excuses for complacency And Not Changing Your Life Part 2

In the last edition of my writeup, I promised to continue from where we stopped  on the worst excuses for complacency and not changing your life. If you want to view the first part click here Here are other excuses we give when asked why we have not accomplished or achieved our dreams.

7. I don't have the right connections.

Between company websites and LinkedIn, Facebook, Twitter, and all the other social media platforms you can reach almost anyone besides the Pope and maybe Bono. In fact some people are surprisingly accessible (maybe that's one of the secrets of their success?)

Still, start small. Start feasible. Build a foundation. A great network is like a pyramid with a wide base, not a thin vertical line that goes straight to the top.

And never forget that the more influential the person, the more they tend to be inundated with requests. Have a good reason to connect, give before you expect to receive, and you will be surprised by the people who respond.

8. I'm too late.

Jobs beat you to the graphical interface and mouse... but Xerox beat him. Zuckerberg wasn't first in social media. Buffett is hardly the first to buy and hold.

The list goes on and on. Innovation is never one-and-done; some of the most successful companies – and careers – are based on refining earlier ideas and innovations.

You're only too late if you're not willing to be better, faster, stronger, cheaper, or just ever so slightly different than whoever got there first.

9. I can't think of a great idea.

Dreaming up something new is really, really hard.

Reacting to something that already exists is really, really easy.

Walk around and start complaining (to yourself.) You'll see tons of problems that require solutions. Those solutions are ideas.

Or walk around your workplace and start complaining (again, to yourself.) There are tons of problems you can address.

"New" is hard to imagine. "Better" is much easier.

Most careers and businesses are built on "better," not on "new."

10. I can't take that risk.

Any risk you take today is a risk you can recover from tomorrow. Given time you can overcome almost any setback, stumble, or failure, and emerge stronger and smarter and better equipped to succeed the next time.

If you never try, all you will be is regretful. When you're old and grey and "done" you'll have to look back on your life and think, "I wonder what might have happened if I had only..."

Having to look back with regret is one risk you should never take.

11. I'm better at planning than execution.

No you're not. You're just too lazy to do the grunt work. Or you think you've already paid your dues. Or you think you're above it. Or – pick your excuse.

Every successful person I know can and does, when necessary, roll up his or her sleeves and just plain outwork everyone else. (That's one of the reasons they're so successful.) 
You don't need some undefined innate quality to be good at execution; all you need is discipline.

The Worst Excuses for complacency And Not Changing Your Life

I looked around and realized that people tend to be complacent and refuse to change their life for the better because of some silly excuses just to appease themselves and by more time. It's likely that one of your excuses is that you don't have enough time, so let's get right to it. These are some of the excuses people give each time you ask them why they are not pursuing their dreams and these are my response to such people.

1. I can't get anyone to listen.

People will listen to anything that is entertaining, interesting, heartfelt, amusing, shocking, informative, titillating, stupid, satirical, controversial, sad, silly, sexy...

If you can't get anyone to listen, they aren’t the problem: You’re the problem.

What you want to say is irrelevant; change your message so it means something to the people you want to reach.

Then they'll listen.

2. I'm too scared.

Join the club. Everyone is scared.

So you have a choice: Let your fears hold you back... or use those same fears as fuel to do whatever it takes to succeed.

Complacency is the enemy of achievement; use your fear to drive complacency away.

3. I don't have the money.

For most entrepreneurs, business is all about the art and science of accomplishing more with less: Less money, less people, less time, etc.

Face it. You will never, ever have "enough" cash or capital or funding. Never. If you don't have enough capital to launch your business the way you plan, change your plan.

You can't always control what you have, but you can control what you choose to do with what you have.

Finding the Courage to Take Risks and Crack Open the Box

 

If you want to make big moves in life, you have to take risks. But taking risks isn’t easy, and it puts most people in unfamiliar territory. Unfamiliar territory can, in turn, often feel dangerous and cumbersome. The human mind loves familiarity, as familiarity usually means safety in some form as well as access to resources. This love of familiarity is literally hardwired into our brains and with good reason. During our evolution, those who could remember where water holes and predators were located, well, they had a better day!

Tossing all of this familiarity aside and deciding to take risks and think outside the box can be very difficult and feel scary. Yet, it is critical that you realize that this is exactly what you may need to do to reach your career or business goals. Taking bold and decisive action at the right moment in time may be what separates you from the fulfilling life you want and living a life that is less than what you dream. Oddly enough, walking away from the security of the know into the insecurity of the unknown is likely what you’ll need to do to achieve your goals and happiness.