One of the best ways to begin the process of being truer to
yourself is to stop acting or “per-forming” with a primary impetus being to
appease others. Granted, there are times and places when it is necessary to act
within certain parameters, such as in a work environment.
However, we all go through times of feeling socially unfulfilled
or disconnected, and while seeking approbation and acceptance from a niche du
jour, may overcompensate by acting in a manner that belies our true-self. It is
actually pretty ironic that at times we may seek personal approval and
acceptance from others by not acting like yourself. Yes indeed, life can at
times be a stage.
When defining yourself more through the eyes of others than your
inner truth, it is not uncommon to begin thinking, feeling and acting less like
yourself and more as you would assume they would prefer you to be. However,
whatever your assumptions of the preferences of others may be, you may or may
not be very accurate nor your actions necessarily expected or effective.
Think about it, you’re assumptions of the preferences of others
is based on how they are acting or what they are saying, but what if they are
doing the same thing you are? What if they are being just as untrue to
themselves and putting on their own show, for the same reasons?