A sense of real frustration had set in. The team wasn't meeting the expectations I had for them and not one team member seemed to be getting better. It felt as though we were stuck in quicksand with no relief in sight. So I did what most inexperienced leaders do, made changes on the team.
"Holding people accountable for their behavior is an act of love."
From the research survey results, five distinct leader profiles became evident depending on the levels of love and discipline a leader leveraged.
1. Exploiter
The exploiter at their core thinks about themselves before others. The idea of leadership being about serving and empowering others doesn't make sense to them until their team starts to rebel, and even then they just blame others. They rarely get maximum effort from their team. You could easily spot an exploiter if you looked at the browsing history of their team because it would be filled with glassdoor.com, monster.com or LinkedIn messages from recruiters.
Scores low in love and discipline
Rarely loved by their direct reports
Highly driven by financial success
2. Pleaser
The pleaser tends to avoid conflict at all costs and prefers the sensation of harmony. They rarely give constructive feedback or hold people accountable in fear they might upset those that they lead. Pleasers also tend to be okay with mediocre performance for an extended period of time.
Scores high in love, low in discipline.
May get taken advantage of by their direct reports.
Often passed over for promotions.
3. Ruler